Loving Yourself & Others Unconditionally

Losing weight and keeping it off is difficult enough, but even more challenging is loving yourself and others through the process.

Obtaining a healthy body image

Do you struggle with your body image? How you feel about your body affects your confidence, overall self-concept, and personal value.

It is difficult to feel okay about what you look like when you’re constantly presented images on TV, the internet, and magazines that depict people who are too thin or even digitally enhanced to mask flaws. It’s just unrealistic!

You already know that it’s important to love yourself for the person that you are. Everyone is made differently, but beautifully, in their own way. Sure, your beauty may be different than that of a fashion model, but you’re still beautiful! Once you accept yourself, you’ll be a happier person.

Focus On Yourself First

When you’re learning to love who you are inside and out, you first need to start with the inside. This simply means that you need to work on changing the way you think about beauty.

No one’s perfect. There may always be something that you don’t particularly like about yourself, but it doesn’t negate your beauty, and it’s certainly no reason to have an unhappy life over it. Shift your focus onto the things that you do like about yourself.

Try having a little faith in humanity. If you people watch in a public place, are you constantly pointing out everyone’s flaws? Chances are that you’re not. You probably don’t judge your friends about their imperfections, so why should you be so hard on yourself?

You’re Uniquely You

Once you’ve worked on your inner feelings, you can then move on to loving yourself on the outside. Unfortunately, in today’s society, people feel ashamed of what they look like to the point of having all sorts of procedures and surgeries.  You don’t need this to feel good about yourself! Think about your reasons.

You can attempt to make changes if you have a problem like acne or weight gain, but there are also things that you can’t change, like having wide hips or freckles. The best thing you can do is embrace yourself for the unique individual that you are. After all, there’s no one else on this planet quite like you.

Making Changes in a Healthy Way

If you wish to make changes in your appearance, you can certainly do so. You just need to be doing it for the right reasons. You might need to lose weight to get back into a healthy weight range. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to change your hair color now and then either. Variety is the spice of life.

But some people convince themselves that even a healthy weight is “fat” and they strive to be underweight.

If you’re stuck in a situation like this, you need to explore the reasons why you feel this way. You also might want to discuss your concerns with a professional.

Passing On a Healthy Body Image

One thing you can do for the world is to help pass on a healthy body image to others. The way the media portrays beauty truly is outrageous, and everyone should be doing their part to promote health and beauty in an undistorted form.

If you have children, teach them that they’re beautiful just the way they are. Since children learn by example, ensure that you never put yourself down in front of them. Avoid complaining about your own body because they might overhear and you might inadvertently teach them something you never intended to teach.

A healthy body image is something we can all strive toward. You’ll make yourself and others feel better by complimenting your friends and family. Everyone likes to get a compliment every now and then. You just might make someone’s day!

YOUR DAILY AFFIRMATIONS

Self-love paves the way for loving others.

Loving myself is the key to showing love for others. Each day, I endeavor to show myself unconditional love. I use my own experiences as a gauge for handling situations with those around me.

I am kind to myself. When I see something I want, I allow myself to indulge. I know I am deserving of good things in life.

I only think positive thoughts about myself. I avoid putting myself down after trivial or complex disappointments. I am human and capable of making mistakes, but I am able to forgive myself and move on with self-confidence.

For every kind word I say to myself, I match it with a kind word to someone else.

When I love myself, it is easy for me to be kind to others. I am able to share my last dollar with someone in need. I acknowledge that others may have greater needs than me. I strive to treat others in a loving manner.

On days when I feel discouraged, I make a special effort to think before I speak or act. This ensures that I remain respectful and kind to others.

Today, I recognize the importance of treating others as I want to be treated. I know that I can draw on my self-love for more positive interactions with others.

Self-Reflection Questions:
  1. How do I show my love for myself and others?
  2. What do I tell myself when I am feeling discouraged?
  3. When do I rely on encouragement from others to help me feel special?

Denise is committed to providing quality education & coaching services to the bariatric community. She is credentialed as a Bariatric Support Group Leader, a Success Habits Instructor, a Back On Track Facilitator, and a Bariatric Health Coach. 

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Denise Roden, NBC-HWC

National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach
Bariatric Center for Success, President

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